The people closest to us are sometimes referred to as our inner circle. These are the 5 to 7 people with whom you spend the most time. These are also the people with whom you share your thoughts, ideas and feelings. The quality and characteristics of these people place limits on your ability to grow and succeed. Are you surrounded by the right people?
There is no specific formula to apply on selecting a correct inner circle. It is your personal preference that matters. However, your potential is determined by your selection. Did you select your inner circle, or did they select you? What qualities should you look to have within your inner circle? Lets take a look at three factors to consider:
1. Do they complement you? We tend to attract people that are like ourselves. Being with people that are similar creates a comfort zone for us to operate in. However, your potential will increase if your inner circle brings talents and traits which are different than yours. You should make sure you also add characteristics that are different and can add strength to your team.
2. Do they have influence? Each person has a unique circle of influence. Each person also possesses varying levels of influence within their circle. Adding people to your inner circle that will extend your influence, will increase your potential. Evaluate each person in your inner circle and see what level of influence they are able to bring to your team.
3. Do they add value to you? You will grow faster if you surround yourself with people that are great. Adding people to your circle that are the best at what they do, will accelerate your growth. Everyone in your inner circle should be adding value to you in some form. If you are the smartest or the best in your circle, then it is time to add some better people to your circle. Those that are better than you, stretch you to higher levels of success.
Even though there are no set rules for creating a perfect inner circle, you can evaluate your current status. People within your inner circle will change over time. Some will leave of their own accord, others you will let go yourself. Don’t be afraid of being on the lookout quality people that can be added to your inner circle. This type of change can have a very positive effect on your long term potential.
Phillips Brooks has said, “The best advisers, helpers and friends, always are not those who tell us how to act in special cases, but who give us, out of themselves, the ardent spirit and desire to act right, and leave us then, even through many blunders, to find out what our own form of right action is.” Your inner circle should support you, but not be you. You must be yourself. Select your inner circle carefully.
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