Another Mistake?

Confucius wrote, “the wise should not hesitate to correct themselves.” Everyone makes mistakes. A wise person quickly corrects their mistakes.

If we want to grow our influence, our authenticity, our credibility, our leadership ability, then when we make a mistake, we must clearly say, “I was wrong”.

A mistake does not show weakness. It only reveals that we are human. Our character is exposed by the actions we take after we realize we made a mistake. 

Therefore, when we are faced with another mistake, we should be proud that we are willing to learn, and make corrections.  

Being Diligent

Diligence is careful and persistent work or effort. It is such an elegant word. When striving for excellence or reaching for success. We should consider our diligence.

Synonyms for diligence include conscientiousness, assiduousness, assiduity, hard work, concentration, care, industriousness, rigor, meticulousness, and thoroughness. Don’t those words represent how you would want your effort to be described?

I want to keep that list of words in my wallet. When I get stuck I can pull it out and find inspiration in those words.

Samuel Johnson once said, What we hope ever to do with ease, we must first learn to do with diligence.” Success follows diligence!

What We Believe

Gandhi said, “Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.”

What we believe is our foundation, and building on those beliefs can transform our life’s journey. This quote can help us explore and develop specific personal growth plans for our life.

For example, select something important to you. It should be an area in which you want to grow. It could be faith, friends, business, community, or a specific skill. Then spend time reflecting on these questions starting with your basic beliefs, and narrow your focus to the area you selected.

1. Beliefs: How can we explore the foundation of our beliefs? How can we strengthen our beliefs? What opposing beliefs exist in current culture? What defining facts are the basis for our beliefs?

2. Thoughts: When do I take time to transform beliefs into thoughts? How are my beliefs reflected in my thoughts? Are my thoughts productive? How could my thinking be more aligned with my beliefs?

3. Words: Can people see my beliefs in the words I speak? Do I speak in a constructive and supportive manner? How can I communicate my beliefs and thoughts so that I am more understood?

4. Actions: Am I living authentically? Where are my actions not a reflection of my words? What do I need to do to follow through more consistently?

5. Habits: Are my habits aligned with my beliefs? What habit should I develop to live according with my beliefs? What habit should I break that is not in alignment with my beliefs?

6. Values: Do I value what is important and in alignment with my beliefs every single day? What values in my life need developed or strengthened? What values am I living, but not fully understanding?

7. Destiny: Where are my beliefs taking me? What development will help me reach the destiny that I want? What short term desires are pulling me away from longer term success?

These are generic example questions. This exercise really grows in significance when you can ask yourself more relevant questions based on your specific situation and your experiences.

This process has helped me broaden my views, and then re-focus on how to grow. Ready to get started? What area of your life would you like to work on?

Be Sincere in Your Praise and Feedback

We can tell when someone is using flattery to make us feel better. With friends it can be harmless fun, but within a business it can be disastrous.

To lead a growing organization, you must provide honest and helpful feedback. Too often we provide only critical opinions on how we perceive performance or we compensate for negative comments by adding flattery. To be effective, performance reviews need to be honest. They need ton consist of two-way discussion. For an employee to improve in your eyes they need to understand your perspective (or change your perspective). Effective feedback can include examples of behavior, discussion of alternative actions, or revision of goals.

If you are able observe without judging, you will be able to increase your capability for compelling evaluation. It takes practice.

To show you really care about a person, always be open and sincere. This applies to both praise and constructive criticism. This quote from Dale Carnegie puts it into perspective.  “The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.”