Loyal is defined as giving or showing firm and constant support or allegiance to a person or institution. A pet dog is a great example of loyalty. Your dog always greets you when you arrive in your home. It happily displays its love and loyalty.
We can be loyal to a person, an idea, a custom, a cause, or a duty. We would like to believe that loyalty does not waver regardless of the situation. We cannot be partially loyal to something, can we? How should we handle loyalties that are in conflict with each other? The truth is a situation can affect your loyalty.
In my experience, I find it useful to always step back and view things from the perspective of my values. Loyalties develop based on external factors and experiences. But values are more basic. they have already been internalized and built into your daily actions.
If you find yourself in a situation where your loyalty is being tested, be sure to reflect on your values before you decide your next action. Be authentic. It helps.
John C. Maxwell said, “An attitude is nothing more than a habit of thought.”
Implementing change starts with changing habits. If I repeatedly act according to the change I want to implement, it becomes a part of me. John’s message tells us to improve our attitude, make it a habit to improve our thoughts.
This is a great reminder for those days when we are not feeling great. If we are depressed, challenged, or emotionally defeated, our attitude can only improve through our thoughts.
We can change our thoughts by changing our environment. We can also change our thoughts by recognizing the positive things that are affecting us. We can’t just ignore the negative, but we can process it. Then move on. If we ignore it, we may miss the opportunity to learn and grow.
It is a difficult balance, but one that can be practiced. Being positive is a powerful habit.
When you are driving and a great song comes on the radio, do you find yourself singing? What if you don’t know the words? Do you hum? I think many of us do.
Life can be a lot like that. Sometimes we sing. Sometimes we don’t know the words, so we hum. Sometimes we whistle, and sometimes we just listen.
When I find myself in a situation I am not familiar with, I spend time observing. When I find myself in a situation that is familiar, but I am not sure how to proceed, I do my best to follow along. When I am in a familiar situation, it is fun to just jump in.
Even though I strive for productivity, and continuous improvement, life is not about being perfect. Life is about participation on whatever level we are able to contribute at the moment.
Next time you find yourself struggling to make progress, instead of searching for the perfect next step, just hum.
“Tomorrow we will become what we choose today. To change means to choose to change.” – John C. Maxwell
I love this quote because there is so much wisdom in just fifteen words.
1. Change takes time. We must work today for what we want tomorrow. Our focus needs to be on the future. Very little permanent change occurs within one day.
2. Change is a choice. It will not occur without intent. We have the opportunity to decide what we wish to change.
3. Change is never ending. Every day we can work towards tomorrow’s goals. Incremental change has a huge impact over a lifetime of effort.
Often we stumble on these points, and we don’t change as much as we expect. We can choose to change to meet our goals in our professional life, our personal life, in our diet, our exercise, or our habits. Can we change? Each day we can strive to make ourselves better tomorrow.